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A lot of people have it all twisted. Loving yourself doesn’t mean you think you’re perfect. It’s natural to not like some things about yourself as much as others. Loving yourself is acceptance of who you, flaws and all, with the desire to continue improving and evolving. It’s not what others think of you and how much others are attracted to you, contrary to popular belief. That’s self IMAGE, which relies on external things for you to feel good about yourself, and a lot of people substitute that for self esteem, unfortunately.

Loving yourself is an inside job, and something that no one can take away from you because it never relied on outside validation and acceptance to begin with. Do you really love YOU when there’s no one around? Do you love YOU when you log off social media networks? Do you love YOU without the validation and external noise?

 

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Alejandro Gomez Palomo is a lucky man indeed! When superstar Beyonce presented her twins Rumi and Sir Carter to the world, the beautiful babies weren’t the only focus. Beyonce’s choice of outfit was also the talk of the town, as she draped herself in a beautiful, multi-colored off shoulder piece while posing with her twins. This colorful piece was designed by menswear designer Alejandro Gomez Palomo, a staple from his Palomo Spain menswear collection.

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The beautiful gown is made of vintage silk organza from Cordoba, Spain, and Palomo stated that the fabric is from the 50’s or 60’s. The piece is from Palomo’s “Boy Walks in an exotic forest” collection, one of many interesting feminine-meets-masculinity inspired collections. It turns out Beyonce was interested in the beautiful piece before she was pregnant, making an order for it ahead of time. According to Palomo, they sent her samples of the piece, and upon approval, tailored the piece for her before finding out she was pregnant. Palomo assumed at that point Beyonce probably wouldn’t wear the piece, but to his surprise, she put it on major display. Palomo Spain collection received maximum exposure due to Beyonce choosing his piece to wear during her long awaited twins reveal.

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You can check out the rest of Palomo’s creative collections at www.PalomoSpain.com .

 

Let’s all take a moment to criticize superstar Beyoncé Knowles-Carter…because she does the absolute most.


Let’s criticize her for announcing her pregnancy in a grand way. You know…the same way you thought of little cute ways to announce your pregnancy to the Facebook world and your family. Let’s criticize her for taking “too many maternity photos”, the same way you updated your every symptom, every aggravation, every doctor’s appointment update, and every single maternity photo.

Let’s criticize Beyoncé (a singer/entertainer) for performing (doing her job) during her pregnancy until she couldn’t anymore. You know…the same way you work everyday while pregnant and complained about working everyday until maternity leave kicked in, and then you ran home to make Facebook posts about how you miss work.


Let’s criticize Beyoncé for posting too many couple pics of her and husband Jay Z. You know…….the same kind of pics (staged and unstaged) you run to Instagram and Facebook to post of you and your own significant other every other day, or pay for cheesy photoshoots every other week in order to post,get likes, and let everyone know someone likes/loves you.


Let’s criticize Beyoncé for posting all her outfit pics for her fans….you know…the same pics you post each and every day of the same ole outfits you wear to work, or anytime you clean yourself up and step out of the house. Or the way you post every meal you cook/eat, every workout you complete, or tag yourself everywhere you go outside of your home.


Let’s criticize Beyoncé for posting her children’s pics and memories for her fans to share moments with her. You know..the same type of pics you post every single day of your little ones that you feel you have to flood everyone’s timeline with, in case they forget what your children look like from 24 hrs ago.

Let’s criticize Beyoncé for “running” to make Instagram posts announcing her twins were born. She took a month to present a pic to her waiting fans. You posted all the way from when your water broke to the time you got to the hospital, while you were waiting in labor, went live during contractions, and Facebook knew your babies were born before your epidural could even wear off. But shame on Beyoncé for making her official announcement of her twins delivery a month later.

Let’s criticize Beyoncé for putting all her relationships highs and lows into her music creatively. You know, the same way you run and post your personal business, every bit of drama and subliminal messages online anytime someone even looks your way too long. Shame on Bey for opening up to the world in her own way and getting paid to do so, when she could just blast her life and exploit herself on social media networks for free.


Let’s criticize Beyoncé for debuting her post pregnancy body and questionably flat tummy. You know, the same way you post wayyyyyy more pics of yourself after you’ve lost any significant amount of weight, or had a weight loss surgery, tummy tuck/lipo done. Shame on Beyoncé for being proud of her transformation like anyone else.

Let’s criticize Beyoncé for keeping her demanding Beyhive pleased by posting more often and keeping the main people responsible for her career success updated with what’s going on in her life when she’s not on tour. You know…the same way you keep social media sites updated on your work schedule, where you are, who you’re dating, everything your kids do, every trip you take, every date you go on,etc. Shame on Beyoncé for keeping her money flowing, instead of just keeping the likes coming on Facebook and Instagram to feel important and popular.


Let’s criticize Beyoncé, for keeping you so bothered, simply because she does you better than you do.


At midnight on June 30,2017, superstar Jay Z changed the game, and pretty much most of the world rejoiced. Jay z definitely had the best month ever, bringing his new set of twins into the world, then dropping his highly anticipated album “4:44”, an album that can easily be Album of the Year. It’s clear that Shawn “Jay Z” Carter has grown drastically from his early rapping days, as his new album is saturated with words of wisdom, life lessons, apologies to his wife Beyoncé, and an obvious show of unconditional love and concern for his children. Because I can’t stop listening to the album, I figured I’d take a few of Jay’s lyrical gems and break down how you can apply them to your own life.


1. Avoid the never ending burden of trying to keep everyone pleased with you.

“They’ll never love you/ You’ll never be good enough, let’s just keep it real..”

When you live your life trying to impress and gain the approval of others, you set yourself up for unnecessary long-term frustration and stress. The truth is you will never make and keep everyone happy. It’s just not possible, and you’ll burn yourself out mentally, emotionally, and physically, even trying to. Opinions and preferences are always changing, and most people are always looking for the next best thing. So live your life on your own terms, so that you don’t have to exhaust yourself overworking to please others.


2. If you know better, do better.

“And you know better n—-, I know you do/But you gotta do better, boy..you owe it to Blue.”

One of the biggest obstacles to personal growth is knowing what you’re doing is wrong and what you should do, yet still engaging in the behavior anyway. Why continue to do things that are more hazardous and reckless than helpful? Why continue to back slide voluntarily instead of progressing? This behavior is toxic to your personal growth, and only holds you back from activating your full potential. Use what you know to continue to grow. Also, be mindful of others that your decisions and actions may affect directly and indirectly, especially your children. Children are more inclined to watch how you move versus paying attention to the things you may say. And we all know that actions speak louder than words.

3. Get the chip off of your shoulder.

“I know people backstab you, I felt bad too/But this ‘f*** everybody’ attitude ain’t natural.”

While Jay Z was obviously referring to rapper Kanye West and his recent public tantrums, there are plenty of Kanye types walking around. You know the ones …mad at the world, blaming everyone but themselves, and holding major grudges towards people they feel treated them unfairly. When you continue to take on a victim role in your life, you relinquish a lot of your power, often handing that power and control over to others without even realizing it. Thinking the world is against you is very toxic, and distracts you from your personal goals.

People will treat you unfairly at times. Everyone will not have the same good intentions. However you can’t let that dictate your character and cause you to take on a “me against the world” mentality. When you release grudges and focus on positives instead of dwelling on negatives, you reclaim power and control of your life.

4. There is always a lesson in the storm

“A loss ain’t a loss, it’s a lesson/Appreciate the pain, it’s a blessin”

Always remember that you are not your circumstances, and that there is something to learn in all that you go through. Life will throw you curve balls and you will experience disappointments and minor setbacks. Sometimes they may be major. However, no matter the size of the storm, what you learn from the circumstances and how you bounce back makes all the difference. Seek out the lesson in all that you go through instead of dwelling on the problem itself.


5. Let success be your clap back

“I don’t post no threats on the internet/ I just pose a threat”

It’s no secret that when you’re doing well and happy you run a high risk of becoming a target of someone that’s envious of those things. The reality is that unhappy people that don’t feel like they’re winning in life don’t want to see anyone else doing so. Sometimes these people can even be your family members and friends. While it may be frustrating, be careful not to get caught up in the drama. The best road to take is always going to be the high one. Don’t waste time concerning yourself with people who don’t want to see you win. Let that remain their personal problem. Don’t make it yours. The solution? Continue to do you. Live your best life unconcerned with anyone’s opinion of you. Let negative, drama filled people battle themselves, and remember..the best revenge of retaliation is unbothered, successful living.

6. Invest way more than you stunt

“Financial freedom is my only hope/ F*** living rich and dying broke”

Jay Z raps a lot about financial freedom throughout the album, and for good reason. It’s easy to get caught up in blowing money and trying to keep up with the Joneses in this social media era where everyone wants to outdo their peers ,create images of luxurious living, and gain popularity. While it seems that blowing money is the “thing” to do and the lifestyle highly influenced by entertainers, investing and financial responsibility falls by the wayside.

One of the best things you can ever do for yourself and your family is save and invest for future financial stability. Living in the moment is cool, but being able to live comfortably long term and have something to leave behind for your kids and loved ones is way more productive. A great place to start being more financially responsible ? For every time you spend, put away the same amount of money into savings. Matching yourself creates a great foundation, especially when you’re consistent with it.

Not sure who told everyone that seeing the new Tupac biopic “All Eyez on Me” was law, but I need everyone to calm all the way down. I had a few discussions regarding choosing not to to go see the movie, and it seemed everybody with a lil bit of melanin seems to be bothered by that decision.

Understand that although Tupac was a great rapper and well known celebrity, being black doesn’t automatically make everyone a stan for him. I like Tupac’s music and have watched many documentaries/interviews on him over the years. However, I’m just not excited to see a movie about him. Not being excited about the movie doesnt make me a hater. It simply makes me indifferent.

The other reason I am choosing not to see the movie is because I haven’t heard hardly any good reviews about the movie. I don’t put much weight into other people’s opinions of a movie normally because I know everyone’s experience is different. However, if I’m already indifferent towards the movie in question, seeing constant negative reviews of said movie will only solidify that for me.

Last but not least, I have never been a huge fan of biopics that aren’t approved or appreciated by close friends and family members of the deceased person in question. I didn’t watch Aaliyah’s last year either for that very reason. I feel that some lines shouldn’t be crossed and find it disrespectful to biopics with such large amounts of drama without the approval of people who knew them the best. Yeah I know sometimes friends and family want to fluff things out and paint a cleaner image sometimes, but I just feel they should be involved to a certain extent, or at least approving of it. Apparently Tupac’s mother did not approve this when it was in talks before she passed, and according to this post, Jada Pinkett-Smith didn’t care for it either.

Understand that not everyone is going to feel the same as you may feel about particular celebrities. I’m pretty sure many of the people that stan for Tupac don’t stan for Michael Jackson and Beyoncé as I do. But guess what? We can all respect each other’s decisions and preferences anyway, right?